Let me start by saying that Dr. Phil sometimes works my last nerve but I have to say that this article on his website spoke to me. I found it by reading someone's success story on MyFitnessPal.com, where I have been tracking my food and exercise lately. I am really trying to be more accountable for what is going in my mouth because the scale is not moving and I haven't been either.
Stop Choosing to be Overweight
If you are obese, you're putting your health at risk. Take control of your weight now to reduce the possibility of suffering serious complications. Having tried and failed in the past is no excuse to give up on yourself now. Dr. Phil spells out the most common weight loss pitfalls so that you can avoid them.
What is your excuse? "I don't have time to work out? I'm too busy working?" Get real! Life Law #1 is "You either get it or you don't." What is making you fat? It isn't your schedule or your metabolism or your willpower. Stop making excuses.
•Letting your weight be your payoff.
Life Law #3 is, "People Do What Works." How is your weight working for you? What is your payoff for being overweight? Does the weight protect you by providing a barrier? Is the weight a form of rebellion? Do you get attention from it by playing the victim? Is your overeating a way of getting pleasure? Accept that you have chosen to be overweight because of the payoff, and have stayed overweight by having a lifestyle that contributes to it. My weight is my shield and protection that I do recognize and I believe that I want to get rid of it but now I question myself everyday about that. I'm a person that somehow ends up putting on a couple of pounds after too many compliments or a new low on the scale.
Diets don't work because dieting is not a long-term solution. If you diet to lose weight, you'll gain the weight back once you get off the diet. Remember, you behave your way to success. There are no quick fixes. Even gastric bypass surgery can only provide short-term results if your behavior and your thinking don't change. I love this bolded line, I want everyone who thinks we "cheated"(lapbanders and bypassers) to know we still work hard for it all.
•Responding to triggers.
What triggers you to overeat? Is it a certain time of the day? Do you turn to food when you get upset? Life Law #4 is, "You can't change what you don't acknowledge." So you need to be honest about how you are using food, and change the way you respond to your triggers. I think I eat out of loneliness although I like being alone(hard to explain), I'm starting to think I may be mildly depressed but I don't want to own that.
•Listening to internal dialogue.
What is your internal dialogue saying? That you're a failure? A quitter? That you'll never lose weight? If so, you need to change these limiting beliefs because they are sabotaging your efforts. How will you change if you don't believe you can change? How can you lose the weight this time if deep down you believe that the outcome is predestined and that you are destined to fail? (This is one of the reasons I think I'm going to start therapy because I'm a chronic self-saboteur and doubter.
This is added by me also "borrowed".
We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty." -- Maya Angelou